A Guide to Living a Life You ABSOLUTELY Love | Maya Comerota

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Performance coach, detail-loving educator, big-thinking entrepreneur, podcaster, mama, passionate adventurer, and health optimization activist here to help people transform their lives, and reach their highest potential! All rolled into one.

“What is the dream that you have, and who is it that you would love to be? Create a very detailed image. How do you walk? How do you talk? How do you dance? How do you hug? How do you kiss? All of those things. And then become that person right now.” - Maya Comerota, a visionary entrepreneur, international speaker, and transformation teacher

Most people go through life without ever truly loving it. At most, they are content, and too often, not even that. And this is something that should be alarming to us! 

We should always strive to live a life we absolutely love. And here today to discuss this with me is the amazing Maya Comerota.

Maya is a visionary entrepreneur, international speaker, and transformation teacher. After spending 15 years in a biotech company, she had a profound life-changing car accident that led her to a personal transformation journey. She learned from the best in neuroscience, quantum physics, and high performance, and through her company's consulting programs and live events, she has empowered millions of people to achieve new heights of wealth, joy, aliveness, and authentic success. 

Maya has been a speaker and coach on major outlets such as NBC, ABC, and CBS and has been featured on stages with Dean Graziosi, Mary Morrissey, and Bo Eason, among others. She was recently invited to train other visionary entrepreneurs on Sir Richard Branson's Island on the art and science of turning dreams into reality, and she climbed Mount Everest, the highest mountain on Earth, in under 36 hours! 

Maya is a true force of nature, and I have had the honor and pleasure of being her student. Today, she is here to share some of her wisdom and motivation with you, so don't miss it!

Without further ado, let’s get right into it!








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Intro (00:00)
How to live a life you absolutely love (02:15)
When you feel like you’re not moving forward (12:48)
Financial restrictions (18:53)
How to tap into your intuition (21:47)
Climbing Mt. Everest in less than 36 hours (30:01)
Maya’s event (38:38)
Rapid fire questions (40:45)
Outro (47:10)

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Intro (00:00)
How to live a life you absolutely love (02:54)
When you feel like you’re not moving forward (13:28)
Financial restrictions (19:33)
How to tap into your intuition (22:27)
Climbing Mt. Everest in less than 36 hours (31:50)
Maya’s event (40:27)
Rapid fire questions (42:34)
Outro (48:59)

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“What is the dream that you have, and who is it that you would love to be? Create a very detailed image. How do you walk? How do you talk? How do you dance? How do you hug? How do you kiss? All of those things. And then become that person right now.” - Maya Comerota, a visionary entrepreneur, international speaker, and transformation teacher

“It took a car accident for me to really understand that there was a particular life I was here to live and a particular person I was here to be, and I had been compromising her. I had been apologizing for her. I had been not allowing the full expression of Maya to be in the world. And so this car accident really helped me understand there's a person I'm here to be and a life that I'm here to live. And if I don't live it, then I'm going to live my life with regret.” - Maya Comerota, a visionary entrepreneur, international speaker, and transformation teacher




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Maya Comerota 0:00  
What is the dream that you have, and who is it that you would love to be? Create that very detailed image? How do you walk? How do you talk? How do you dance? How do you hug? How do you kiss like all of these things? How do you speak and then become that person right now?

Claudia von Boeselager 0:18  
Are you ready to boost your longevity and unlock peak performance? Welcome to The Longevity and Lifestyle Podcast. I'm your host, Claudia von Boeselager, longevity, and peak performance coach. Each week we'll explore groundbreaking science, unravel longevity secrets, share strategies to grow younger, and stay up to date with world-class health and peak performance pioneers. Everything you need to live longer, live better, and reach your fullest potential to defy aging, optimize health, and promote peak performance. Visit LLinsider.com for more.

My guest today is Maya Camerata, a visionary entrepreneur, international speaker, and transformation teacher. After spending 15 years in a biotech company, Maya had a profound life-changing accident that she will share with us today, which led her to a personal transformation journey learning from the best in neuroscience and quantum physics in high performance and through her company's consulting programs and live events Maya has actually empowered over millions of people to achieve new heights of wealth, joy, aliveness, and authentic success. Maya has been a featured speaker and coach on major media outlets like NBC, ABC, and CBS, she has been featured on stages with Dean Graziosi, Mary Morrissey, and Bo Eason, amongst others. Maya was recently invited to train other visionary entrepreneurs on the art and science of turning dreams into reality on Sir Richard Branson's Island. Maya is a true force of nature, and I have had the honor and pleasure of being her student. So I'm truly excited for your audience to learn from my head today, so please enjoy. Welcome to the Longevity and Lifestyle Podcast, Maya. It's such a pleasure to have you on today.

Maya Comerota 2:12  
It's such an honor to be here. Thank you so much for having me.

Claudia von Boeselager 2:15  
So I'm particularly honoured and grateful because he has been a mentor and teacher to me over the last years. And I'm just so delighted for your audience to share my and her amazing work with you today. And I'd love to start my hour with your passion for helping people to live a life as you say, a life you absolutely love without apology and compromise. I think it's something that so many of us are striving towards. But what, how do you define life you absolutely love? And why is it so important that each and every one of us should be striving for this mission?

Maya Comerota 2:49  
Yes, such a great question. We have this journey of life. And so often, you know, we have this idea that life is supposed to look a certain way. We're taught that way growing up, you work hard, you get good grades, you go to a good school, you get a good job, and all of these things, and then, you know, all of a sudden, you end up, and you should love your life. And, you know, I won't go too deep into this right here. But I had that scenario, I, you know, was very young and had was very successful by external, you know, everyone outside of me would have said, Oh, my husband, all she looks, she's great. She's got a great marriage, she's got a great life, she has a great job, she's got a great title. And, you know, I made plenty of money, all of the things, and yet I was super unfulfilled. And so what I started to realise, and it took a car accident for me to really understand it was that there was a particular life that I was here to live and a particular person I was here to be, and I had been compromising her. And I had been apologizing to her. And I had been not allowing the full expression of Maya to be in the world. And so this car accident really helped me to understand, you know, there's a person that I'm here to be and a life that I'm here to live. And if I don't live it, then I'm going to live my life with regret. And so, you know, I started really following the little whisper and the little spark inside my heart after this car accident that said, you know, Maya, you love to sing Maya, you love to dance, Maya, you love to speak Maya, you love to teach Maya you love to learn, and started allowing myself to follow that whisperer and not be guided by you should, you should do this. And you should do that. And you should have this title. And you should have all of these things that the external world that was so important, you know, none of those things are that important. And so, after that car accident, it really became my mission to live a life that I love. Because because I knew that my life could be over tomorrow like it could have ended that day. And so, Oh, so I made it my mission to live a life that I love and to stop apologizing, and to stop compromising, you know, whether it was, you know, the jobs, or the relationships, or you know what I'm supposed to do in my schedule every day, or what people I'm supposed to see, or any anything in the day, that is the shoulds that each of us has, right? Like, you should say yes to this. And you should say no to that. And it was like, No, my life could be over tomorrow, who do I want to be today? And what kind of life do I want to live? Because if I don't do that, then I'll live a life of regret. And then that then became a mission to support, you know, so many women, to so many people to live a life that they absolutely love, so that they don't have regret,

Claudia von Boeselager 5:45  
I'd love to dig into a few parts of that as well. But just to reflect back, and also for people listening, I mean, how many of us aren't doing something because we think we should, you know, growing up, I had an older sister, I felt like I needed to be the boy and the achiever. And then, you know, three master's degrees, four languages later, working in investment banking, I was like, okay, still not achieving enough. Like, I have to do more, I'm not super happy. What is it? What is the purpose? It's just that I'm doing what I should be doing, right? Everyone says I should. And I think it's that external looking that will never get to happiness. And as you said, you needed a near-death experience to reflect inward. And I want to touch on that in a moment. But for some people who are thinking, okay, but society has always told me I should do this. And my parents always said I shouldn't become a lawyer, a doctor, whatever it is. And for some people, that's their passion. And that's exactly what they're supposed to be doing. And that's perfect. But if there are doubts inside of them, what would you recommend? Where should they start?

Maya Comerota 6:42  
You start by listening to that part of you that says this. This either is it or it's not it. Right? So it's, you know, the question I ask all the time is, what would you love? Like, what lights you up? What makes you excited? What makes you passionate? What makes you sad? What makes you angry? You know, what, what are the things that you're like? Ah, I want to poke my eyes out. If I have to sit in this thing, please don't do that thing. Like, please don't, if you want to poke your eyes out, now you're gonna want to poke your eyes out later. Right? If you feel the should I mean, even just that, that feeling, if you just even take a pause and feel what you should do, this feels like in your body. It's this huge weight. Yeah. And if you just said, you know, my, what, or, you know, whoever's you're listening, what would you love? What if you didn't have to be bound by how much money you make? Or, you know, what our preconceived notions are? Of what life is supposed to be? How would you want your life to be without any limitations? And I've always used that as, like, that's a really great question to ask yourself as a guide. If I wasn't limited by money, if I wasn't limited by time, what would what would I want to do? How would I want to live my life? And that's a really great guide for how we're meant to be living our life. And then you start to take steps to create a life within that framework, instead of creating a life that you created an AI created of, you know, I should, I should be working this job. And I should be doing four languages and, you know, five titles and all of these different five degrees and all of these things, and all of a sudden, you know, you're stressed out and overwhelmed and unfulfilled. And yet, you have lots of titles and lots of languages, but no laughter anymore, and no joy, and your body might even be in some level of disease. And so, the best place to start is what I would love in my life. How would I love to live my life? What would be my ideal day?

Claudia von Boeselager 8:48  
And to really feel into that? Because I know when I speak with some clients as well about this, they're like, oh, but this what that and like, oh, no, I can't because um, I think for people so listening and watching it's listened to that restrictive voice or don't listen to it, I should say much better, but just be so aware of that. That's a really trained neural pathway that we have. And as Maya was just saying, you know, really feeling so that expansive place of like money is no object time is no object but what I love and just attach to that as well. And so on,e of your key teachings for women, but also for men, I know you have to be her now or be him now. And this is so simple yet so profound. I'd love it if you could share a little bit more about what you really mean by that.

Maya Comerota 9:34  
Yeah, I love it. You know, being her now was a principle that came through, you know, through this car accident was the voice that I heard in this car accident said I wasn't yet the woman that I was supposed to be, I didn't yet become her and I thought, well, if I make it out of your life, I want to you know, I'll be here you know, just give me another shot. And you know, if I get another shot, I'll, I'll be her. Don't be her right now. But I didn't know who she was yet. I didn't know why, you know, at 30, some years old, and I was a corporate executive, and I ran a team of 300 people, and you know, that I hadn't yet become the woman that I was here to be. And so, you know, I started sitting with, After this accident, who is this woman who went, who am I here to be? And I started to feel what she felt like. And I started to see, you know, at the time, I have a, I had a three-year-old son and a husband. And, you know, and unlike, what is the relationship I want with my son, what's the relationship I want with my husband? What is, you know, what does it feel like to have the freedom to go to work when I want to go to work and come home and still have time with my son, you know, at the time I was leaving, leaving the house before he woke up and coming home after he was in bed, and it was excruciating for me. And so I started to create this image of this woman, and this woman was free, this woman was playful, this woman, you know, this, and this was me, it felt very much like my true essence was so playful and so free, and, you know, would, would be at home in the mornings with my son and be able to work several hours during the day, and then be home with him in the afternoon. And we went on adventures, and we went on family vacations, and, you know, we had plenty of prosperity to be able to support our, our freedom, and the adventures that we went on. And, you know, I had created this image of this woman that wasn't living to work. But you know that that was one really fulfilling component of my life. But I had these other fulfilling components. And so I created this image of this woman and how she would walk and how she would talk and how she would laugh and how she would sing, and how she would dance and, and I started to live into and practice being that woman, just even in my imagination. And so be her now was what was birthed in, you know, who is it? What is the dream that you have? And who is it that you would love to be? Create that very detailed image? With? All you know, how do you walk? How do you talk? How do you dance? How do you how do you kiss like all of these things? How do you speak and then become that person right now, behave like that woman right now? Make the decisions of this woman right now. And so I created that image. And then, as I was navigating this next portion of my life, I would bring up this image and say, What would she do? What would she do in this situation? What would she do in this circumstance? How would she respond to this woman that I am created to be? And then be her now

Claudia von Boeselager 12:48  
I think that is just so powerful. And I just want to reiterate for people listening as well. Because I've seen people come to me, Well, I've been working on this goal for, like, five years, and it's nothing's happening. And whatever it is that I sometimes hear from clients, and even sometimes myself, frankly, that's why I'm so glad to have my in my life, that she can remind me of these beautiful messages as well. And I think that's really the power, and just to reiterate that you have to be in the vibration, you have to be that person and make the decisions from there and not from the place of lack and scarcity and not the place of it's not going to work anyway. But, like, I'm still going to try because nothing's gonna happen. Right. I mean, do you see that a lot with clients that you work with? My? Oh, absolutely. I

Maya Comerota 13:29  
think, you know, I was actually talking with them. I just did an endurance challenge that I know we'll probably talk about, but mine endurance coach, I was asking him, you know, he's an Olympian and Olympic athlete and number one Olympic athlete for, like, kona triathlon. And, you know, so I, many times, talk about how to support people to make their dreams come true. And I asked him in the context of, you know, endurance events. So these are people doing 100 miles, 200 miles, 500 miles, like, seven marathons in seven continents in seven days, like these kinds of things. And so, I know a system for success is the same across the board. So I was just curious, in an endurance event, what does it take to make a miracle? Like a number one Olympian athlete, what does it take? And he said, consistency over time, faith over time, action over time, dedication over time, and this is exactly for, you know, I think so many of us, we want the result right now, right? It's like, okay, so you told me that if I dream, the dream, and if I hold the vibration, and if I and if I beat her now, then I will be it, and it should be now. Right? But there's this in between. That is, how it's all coming together. And that consistency over time and the faith over time and the dedication over time and all of us sudden, there is a quantum leap. You know, I went from where I was as a corporate executive to, you know, I mean, it felt like it was taking forever. And maybe in the last, in the last three or four years, you know, built a multiple seven-figure business hasn't had incredible relationships with my family and my friends. And I mean, the most beautiful relationships have a business partnership with Dean Graziosi. And Brendan Bouchard, and, and so if you look at it three or four years, it actually feels like that happens so fast. But in the experience of it, there were plenty of times of frustrations of is this ever going to happen? Is this ever going to be, you know, you go from struggling one day to being invited to speak in front of a million people the, you know, the very next day or eight months later, and it really appears? Hindsight 2020. It's like, it looks like it happened overnight. But when you're living at that moment feels like a lifetime. And so this practice that we're talking about is a practice that creates significant and exponential results. Very quickly. And yet, it will feel like it's taking forever. Because when it happens, it happens. Right? It's like the invitation if I use an example, I was invited. Last year, I had this feeling in my heart that I was going to speak at the Time to Thrive event, which is for a million people. And I didn't know what to do about that knowing like that dream and that knowing, and like, am I supposed to tell someone? Am I supposed to do something about this? And I got a very clear answer. No, just be her now. And so I prepared my talk. Nobody had invited me. I'm preparing my talk, I hired the coach. And she's like, okay, when are you speaking? And I said, Well, it's this date, it's August 8. And she says, Okay, what are you talking about? I said, Well, I believe that I'm talking about this. She said, Well, they would tell you I said yes. They haven't invited me yet. And she's like, I mean, she also knows how it works. He's like, okay, they haven't invited me yet. But they will. Right. So, I prepared, and I planned. Well, it's eight days before the event, and I still haven't gotten invited. I've got my talk, I'm practicing my talk seven days before the event. I got the phone call and said, Hey, can you speak at this event? And are you, you know, can you be ready? And I was like, I was ready. One month ago, I was born ready because I hired the coach, and I did the thing. But most of that's actually such a beautiful demonstration of being her now. Right? If you have a dream, let's say you have a dream, it could be a healthy dream. It could be you have a dream to speak on stage, whatever it was in this, in this scenario was I wanted, I believed I was speaking on the stage. While I didn't wait to be asked to then take the action that I would take once I was asked, I know, okay, if I'm going to speak on stage, then I need to know what I'm talking about. I need to have a story. I need to practice and be ready. So whether they asked me or not, these are the things that I need to do. So let me get the coach, let me do the thing. So somebody who has a, you know, health or vitality, like I'm not waiting for the moment that I feel in the best health to be able to do it, I'm going to sign up for the marathon, I'm going to get the coach, I'm going to start the training, I'm going to start the practice. And so what would she do? What would he do if this dream were true? And then behaving in that way, and then realizing, you know, to your point, it can feel very frustrating along the way because it feels like it's not happening fast enough. And so being able to hold ourselves in the knowing that this is done, and then knowing that this is true, and continuing to hold that dream and hold that faith. And continuing to act as her or acting as him is a really powerful practice.

Claudia von Boeselager 18:53  
So I have two questions from that night, I actually adore that story. That's the real embodiment of it as well. But for some people who might say with, you know, financial constraints and lack and scarcity, and they're like, Well, my What does that mean? Do I just go out and spend all the money I have in good faith? It feels so scary. I have kids, or whatever the case may be. So in terms of the financial and spending aspect, if you will, or investments, what do you advise people in that regard,

Maya Comerota 19:23  
I always say there's, you have an intuitive knowing always, right, and so you can't trick, but you can't trick yourself into feeling a certain way you actually must feel that way. Right, and it must feel true. So if you're not feeling abundant or prosperous, you will not get to feeling abundant or proper, prosperous from not feeling it. You've actually got to create the feeling within yourself. And so you first create the feeling within yourself of, like, so I know we were born we We were born wealthy, born rich, we live in an incredible environment and universe with mountains and oceans and all of these things. And we're not necessarily always grateful for these things. But we have a heart that's pumping. And you know, there's so much to be grateful for. So getting in that space of knowing that there's, there's so much more abundance that I'm evil, even aware of getting yourself into that space. And then asking the question, like, if there's something that you are meant to do, am I meant to be in this spend this money in this way? Am I meant to like that, is this the opportunity? Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. But just because you spend the money, it's not like, I'm gonna go out and just spend $1,000 to pretend that I'm rich, that's going to trick myself and trick the universe into thinking I'm rich. Like, that's not how it works. It's what it's what is like, what is aligned for me at this moment. And going from a space of alignment is the most powerful practice. So for certain people spending certain money would feel in alignment. For other people, it wouldn't. And it's really, you know, this is really a practice of understanding, is this and is this in real alignment for me? Does this feel good in my system? And what would she do in this space? If I were this woman with this prosperity? Would I spend this money in this way? And then being really honest with yourself of the truth and your body will know, you know, this, this takes a little bit of practice to understand and hone in on your real intuition. Because a lot of people spend money still from a place of lack.

Claudia von Boeselager 21:47  
I'd love to touch on that a bit, as well, Maya, because it sounds so interesting. I think for people like, okay, Maya has got it figured out. She has this great intuition. She has this voice. But you know, some people are sitting there, and they're like, I hear my monkey mind. And I don't hear any intuition. And my phone's ringing and my computer, and I have to do this and like, how am I supposed to tap into that? So what was that practice? For you? Especially maybe at the beginning, and maybe you can share a little bit more about that journey? And what really happened at that moment for you, I know you mentioned a little bit before, but to understand that beginning stages, because I think there are people listening and interested in this are probably lucky, sometimes I hear a voice, but then I don't, and I don't trust myself, how can I tap into it? How can I train myself to be better at that? So yeah, I know, I asked a bunch of questions that

Maya Comerota 22:36  
No, awesome. So, you know, it really started. I believe you, we're always connected with our intuition to something, you know, a power much greater than us. And so, you know, and we're being guided, there's nobody like you or me or anybody who's listening, we are very unique. And we're uniquely guided, you know, I always use the example of like the earth traveling around the Sun traveling in the galaxy, like this is happening right now, the Earth isn't gonna fall out of the sky anytime soon. There is a power at work here that's keeping all of this in motion. That same power and life are alive in us. And so it's about harnessing and tapping into that power that is living and breathing us. And we, as human beings, have this unique capability where we have our own willpower and our own will to do what we decide to do that's either in alignment or not alignment with a life force that's living and breathing us, right? And so I would say, I got pretty off kilter when I was a corporate executive where I kept doing all the shoulds that I wasn't listening to the voice inside of me that was like this, isn't it? My if you're not happy, at a certain point, I get super depressed. I actually went like I was diagnosed with depression for about six months. When I left my career, I was miraculously saved. And so, but I mean, it took a car accident, as I mentioned, and, in that car accident, like cars are flying through the air, I hear this voice that says, you haven't done what you came here to do. And for the first time in my life, I prayed. I hadn't yet done that. But I'm like, if I make it out of your life, I'll be her. Like, I'll be this woman. I don't know who she's here to be. And so, after that car accident, you know, the police officers were like, you've got to go to the hospital, you must be something must be wrong with you. There was nothing I had, not a scratch on me. So I know there was something much more powerful at work here. Thank you. And, so, you know, after that experience, I went home, everything looked the same, but I knew everything was different. And there was something inside of me that knew I was here for a reason. Just like every single one of us. That message wasn't just for me, it was for everybody. And that was part of what I was here to share with the world through some of that experience. But then what I also realized was that I had gotten so off-kilter. And that those, like, I saw these images of my life, and these little moments that were the most meaningful, and it was the moment of a hug and a moment of an embrace, and a moment of, like, the first moment, you know, when I was kissing my husband on our wedding day, and holding my son for the first time, and I just, I felt the feeling of these moments and the meaningfulness of them. And when I scanned the other experiences in my life, it didn't have that same feeling of meaning. And so, you know, I'm putting thought into something that really became more feeling. So what I hope to invite everybody to do is really feel the feeling of, you know, like a little spark, or a little whisper, or a little joy, or a little inspiration. And, and when you feel that, you know, it was like, I saw a book, and something lit up in me, I saw a person's name or event, and something would light up in me. And I would say, Okay, I am supposed to read this book, Oh, I feel this feeling with this person. I'm supposed to talk to this person. Oh, I'm supposed to go to this event. But it was all from this, like a little, like, oh, Spike, like a little spark little and very different from, you know, like, there's so many people, it's like, I must do this so that I lose the weight. Or I must do this so that I have the money, or I must do this for, and it's a very different one coming from that feels amazing. Yeah, that feels a little tingly. That feels a little exciting. That feels like I just look at your eyes and body. Like, it's just a little. And I get chills. And I get little tingles, right? And so it's versus like, oh, like, I got to write I should do this diet because this diet, I'm finally losing the weight. Or I'll, I'll exercise this much because then it'll happen. Or I'll take these 27 courses, and then it's gonna happen. And it's not from a should. It's not logical sometimes, it doesn't even make logical sense. You know, there was one night I woke up in the middle of the night, and I got this email. And it said, by, by midnight, this night, I needed to respond that I was going to go on this trip to Greece. I had never been to Greece, I, you know, rollover. And I'm like, I'm supposed to go to this place. I'm supposed to go to Greece. I can't. I can't make any sense of it. But I just know I'm supposed to be there. And there was this, like, I woke up right before midnight, I signed up to go to Greece. And to be for the first time, you know, I had left my corporate career. This was to be with, you know, entrepreneurs and mission-driven people who wanted to make the world a better place. And I mean, I just came from corporate, I don't even know that this is what I am or who I am. But I'm like, I'm just called to be in this new environment with new people in a new place. And so it was. I did something scary, but it all came from. And I love the question. It's this. It's the difference between expansion and constriction. It's the one that feels exciting that feels inspiring, that feels like something I would love versus something that I should, or I have to, or I'm missing out on. If I don't,

Claudia von Boeselager 28:27  
it's the heart that skips a beat versus the cerebral logic, this would be good for something or other things as well. So, hopefully, people listening and watching know the difference between the two, and we've hopefully all had moments in our lives. I hope for everyone. They've had many where the heart skips a beat of it. And there's that excitement and joy that comes with things. The one

Maya Comerota 28:49  
thing I'll share just as context because it's not, I wasn't great at it at the very beginning. Yeah, I followed those like, oh, and then I also did the show notes sometimes that I thought were the, and then later on, looking back, I was like, Oh, it wasn't that, and I could look back on it and see it. And so sometimes it just takes trusting it. It takes trusting it and taking action and then starting to sense the difference because you'll feel it when you're on your path and you aren't doing what fulfills you and brings you joy and brings you alive and brings you fulfillment. I mean, it is more and more joy, more and more expansion, more and more of that. But you'll also feel the constriction when you're not in that space. And that contrast is going to support you to continue making the decisions that are in alignment. But it wasn't. I didn't do it 100%. At the very beginning, I was so skilled at it that I trusted it. I just trust it more than anything. It's like I get that feeling. I trust it more than I trust anything, but it has the practice to get there.

Claudia von Boeselager 30:01  
Yeah, no, thank you for clarifying that as well. And I can't remember who mentioned it recently, as well as that every time you have that little intuition to give a gratitude be like, thank you so much like, thank you for that guidance, thanks for the gratitude so that you actually associated with joy and something positive. And follow it as well. I mean, as Joseph Campbell says, you know, follow your bliss. And I love the word bliss, that spark that joy as well. And so you're the embodiment of this. My, so thank you for sharing that. This leads me to my next question Was part of the jump and spark for 20 9029? And just as a side note, so as some of my audience will know, I signed up for a half marathon at the beginning of October this year, and I run sometimes, but I'm not a main runner person; I have fast Twitch muscles, which is better for short distance better for weight training, not the endurance athlete, long-distance ones I've discovered. But I was so inspired by his journey and your learnings. And I'd love it if you could share some of those as well. And for those who are unfamiliar, 20 9029 is climbing the equivalent of none other but Mount Everest in under 36 hours, which is just insane. I mean, it's 19 Times up and down the hill or the mountain, I should say. So, What did this challenge mean to you? And why did you do it? And can you share some of your biggest takeaways from it? Absolutely,

Maya Comerota 31:25  
absolutely. So I had registered for 20 9029. This was almost probably two years ago or two and a half years ago. And, you know, a lot of it was this, ah, this is an exciting adventure. You know, I had I, every year I choose a new word for the beginning of the year, and this year, it was like, I'm going to be the most vital in my entire life. And so, so this was my intention. And so 20 9029 came up, and I had some colleagues and friends and Jesse Itzler, and Colin O'Grady and a couple of other folks who were, you know, who were the founders of this event? And I thought, you know, this sounds exciting, this sounds fun, and, and didn't actually logically process it. Because I think if I did, I would have been like, That's ridiculous, which I later thought, you know, later, I did think that's completely ridiculous. What did I do? And many of you, as you follow your intuition, are going to say that's completely ridiculous. What am I doing? That just didn't feel that way. Because it's, I mean, this is you guiding you on a path you've never been on. So. So I had this little inspiration of adventure, and then I was going to do this thing. And then it turned out that there was another plan in my life, which was I got pregnant, and so I wasn't able to do 20 9029 last year. So I postponed it for one year. And so I would have done it, the doctor said no, that that was completely out of the realm of what I shouldn't do from the mounting. Yes, at altitude, like, please don't climb the equivalent of Mount Everest at eight months pregnant. So, I postponed it for one year. Well, what I didn't realize at the time was really how trying, preparing, and training for climbing the equivalent of Mount Everest would be with an infant. I mean, I didn't have the capability really of, well, now that I didn't have the capability, I didn't choose to train in the way that you would need to train because it meant that I would have to compromise and sacrifice the most important thing to me, which at the time is my baby. And so my training, my training for 20 9029, was more like everybody else's rest day. Like my 90-minute training was somebody else's rest. And I'm like, Oh, my Lord. So I was really scared. Oh, go ahead. That

Claudia von Boeselager 33:38  
said, my, I did see you on your stories at, like, 1 a.m. or something. Um, I was like, really? She's trading at what am I was like, hats off to you?

Maya Comerota 33:45  
Yes, well, so I did get a couple of six training six-hour training. And although they had recommended, like, 13 hours, I couldn't do 13 hours, and I couldn't do 1213-hour training. But I was able to do two to six-hour trainings, and I was able to do them in the middle of the night when I was, you know, I was traveling. So, you know, when I was talking to the endurance coach, he was like, you know, train exhausted and train exhausted. And I said, Well, I got exhaustion covered because I have an infant, and she's up every couple hours. So I got that on everyone. Like I'm exhausted 100% of the day, and I'm doing it, but I learned a couple of things. You know, one, it really all of it is really a mindset heart set game. You know, I didn't. I was really challenged in my mind because I thought my physical body wasn't prepared for this. And so I've never done a physical feat like that. I've done marathons, I've done some other things, but to plan to to be hiking at altitude at a 65% incline, the equivalent of Mount Everest, for 36 hours. It's like, you may not be able to stop. You've got to go 30 hours, 30 plus hours. I didn't know if my physical body, like my brain, could handle a lot, and my mind was there. very strong and a fortress. But I didn't know if my physical body was going to fall apart. And so, you know, I remember talking to a friend who had done seven marathons in seven continents and seven days. And I just said, I'm a little scared, you know, if I'm honest, and he says, Okay, how's your body? And I said, Well, my body's fine. He said, How's your training, and I said, I have, like, very little. I've done very little. And he says, Well, this is good. Because I know you and your mind is a fortress. And so you actually need some level of greater challenge. And you will be challenged because you're doubting yourself because you haven't trained or prepared as you always train and prepare. But for you, actually knowing and using the power of your mind and your heart, which you know how to do to overcome that self-doubt, is going to be everything for you. So the only thing he's like, what I would recommend is don't quit when you want to quit. Just go one more step. And so, you know, as I approached this mountain, I was thinking, you know, okay, I don't know if I'm going to make it. I really don't. I don't know if I'm going to cross the finish line and get the Red Hat to do it. What I do know is the only way to summon a mountain is one step at a time. So, I'm going to keep going one more step. And I'm going just to keep going one more step. And then anytime somebody came in, they said, how much longer? I say one more step because it's always one more step. That's it. And so I said, you know, what if I don't know, if I'm going across this finish line, then what I do know is I better have a whole lot of fun doing it. Otherwise, it's going to be 36 hours of suffering. So or even more, right, so I'm going to decide that I'm going to do it and have so much fun. So, my first intention wasn't to cross the finish line and get the Red Hat. It was having a whole lot of fun. It was enjoying every single step. It was not quitting but continuing to take another step. So I wasn't going to quit when I wanted to quit. I was going like, either my body was going to fall apart, or like I was going to be left there on a mountain. But I wasn't, I just wasn't going to quit. I was going to take one more step. And then I was going to meet amazing people along the way. And if I felt like I couldn't do it, my other intention was I was going to help someone. Because if I helped someone else, I knew I would help myself. So, my very last intention was to cross the finish line in less than 36 hours and get my red hat. And what I can tell you is, you know, I crossed the finish line, I got my red hat. But I had a blast doing it. I met incredible people, I help people along the way, you know, my last track. So it was 19 summits. It was 19 summits. And I did it in about 30 hours. And for my last summit, I just think it instead of it taking me an hour. It took me about three. But it was because I really paused to enjoy every moment. Because I even had somebody who wanted to cross the finish line with me. And I said I'll wait for you before we cross the finish line. But I really want to experience this last track, like I may never take this step again. I may never be on this mountain again. I may never experience this again. And you know, with tears almost the whole way from summit 15 through my 19th. I mean, it was the last for that I was so emotional, like, wow, I'm doing this thing. And so I mean big lessons I learned where it's really not about the finish line. It's about how you approach it. It's about having fun every step of the way. It's about knowing that all you need to do is take the very next step. I didn't need to worry about 19 summits. I just needed to worry about one step. And that if I ever needed my own help, I would find my own way.

Claudia von Boeselager 38:38  
So beautiful. It is such a beautiful analogy as well for life in general. And for entrepreneurs. And we all have these big goals. And we want to be in, you know, what might be in 10 years' time now. And we're disappointed and struggling on the way but actually find joy in the present moment. And put that as the main focus and help others as well. So you have that feeling of community and sense. So really, really beautiful. Maya, thank you for sharing that. as well. You have an exciting event coming up. So, what can you share with my audience about that?

Maya Comerota 39:06  
I do, I do us. So, you know, one of the things that I absolutely love and I'm so passionate about is that every single person is unique. And every single person has a unique special X factor that creates even greater passion, even greater prosperity, and even greater purpose in your life. And I think most people don't know how to tap into and tune into that X factor that lives within them. And I even believe that there are a lot of people super-successful people that believe that not everybody has won. But I actually know in every cell of my body because I heard it in this car accident that we are each here like there's someone that you're here to be right and that I know that message wasn't just for me. And so that message is for everyone, and I love helping people to tap into that X factor that lives within them and show them that every single person has it. You have it. You know everyone has it, and it's unique to you. So yours is anybody else's. It's yours. But so I go through a process, and it's a five-step process to help people tap into that unique X Factor, that passion, that purpose, that prosperity that lives within you, and be able to share that then and experience that and show up really powerfully in the world.

Claudia von Boeselager 40:18  
So beautiful. And when is it taking place? And we'll link everything in the show notes for everyone as well.

Maya Comerota 40:23  
Awesome. It's September 11 through 13th. And it's nine Pacific to 1030. Pacific. So it's 90 minutes, and then there's a VIP option that people can upgrade for. But it's, you know, at the very minimum, it's about what is that five, four and a half hours. And then if people want to stay for the VIP, which I recommend because there's laser coaching and a variety of other things, that it's another hour after that for the laser coaching.

Claudia von Boeselager 40:45  
Amazing. So we'll link everything in the show notes, and for people listening to this episode in the future, then just stay tuned to me because she might have something for you in the future I'd love to jump into some rapid-fire questions. Yeah. Who would you consider the most successful person of all time? And why? You know, I love Oprah.

Maya Comerota 41:07  
I love you know her story. I love her embodiment. You know, she really, she seems very present and fulfilled. And knowing what she's been through in her life. That would be that would be one.

Claudia von Boeselager 41:23  
Yes. I love that she shared all her struggles along the way, which makes it surreal for everybody else as well. So in the last five years, Maya, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life

Maya Comerota 41:35  
joy, starting my day with fun and laughter? You know, when people talk about, like, what are your morning habits, I have a habit with my son, and we laugh at the very beginning of every morning. And that is, you know, that's That's exactly it. The other is to build it as you love it. You know, I build my life exactly as I would love it to be. I think so many people compromise. And they think, Oh, I'll be able to live the life that I love after I do this. But because I make it a priority to live my life. I love it as I live it. And as I build it, it becomes the exact life that I want to be living.

Claudia von Boeselager 42:13  
uniform. Yeah. And so many people say wait till retirement to do something like, do it now. Yeah. What have you become better at saying no to my end via invitations and distractions, and what new realizations or approaches might have helped? Because I think so many people are too busy. So, what are some advice you would give on getting better at saying no to things?

Maya Comerota 42:37  
So, I say no to so many things? Because I know that when you say yes, it is a notice something. And so often, we just don't realize what we're saying no to. And oftentimes, what we say no to is the most important thing. And so I make a habit of saying yes first to myself. And I actually have a calendar of all my yeses to me. So I plan first. And then, if it aligns for me, I would say yes to somebody else. But if it doesn't, then I say no, and a really powerful. So, two powerful practices. One is I schedule my joy, I schedule my fun, and I schedule all of those things before I even schedule my work. And then my work gets to get scheduled in there. Because it's all it's I'm, I want to live a life that I have to love. And then I scheduled that first that I scheduled to work in. And then I have a practice of what I need to do to say no, which is very little. I can say no, thank you. I can say oh, thank you, I have another plan. I so appreciate you thinking of me. But I have something that is very standard that feels so good for me to say. So I don't have to guess myself second. And I also know you know, one of my premises is without apology, that we don't have to apologize for anything. It's just no thank you. Thank you so much for thinking about me. I have another plan. Thank you so much. uniform.

Claudia von Boeselager 44:03  
Do you have a favorite quote or piece of advice? That was a real game-changer for you.

Maya Comerota 44:09  
I do. And it's I want to. I mean, there's so there's so many. One of them is I forget exactly what it was that the quote is that people remember how you make them feel. And so my intention in my life is to feel like I am the person who makes others feel great. And to be the person that makes every other person better. But not at the compromise of myself but actually because I am her and because I'm living it and you give

Claudia von Boeselager 44:37  
from the overflow, not from the empty cup. I love that. What book have you gifted most man?

Maya Comerota 44:42  
I love the science of getting rich. I give that all the time. Science of Getting Rich. The Power of Awareness is a super powerful book for me as well. And then my most recent is one called True Love.

Claudia von Boeselager 44:57  
True love. I haven't heard of it. So I'll have a look at that one. Beautiful. That's if you could metaphorically speak a message out to a billion people, what would it say and why

Maya Comerota 45:07  
it would be my it would be my message. You're born for this, you were born for something that only you can share with the world. The reason why I would want to share that is because I think if we don't come into the full expression of who we are and share our special gift with the world, I mean, that's the only reason we're here to be this gift and to be this expression to share that with one another. And so we will miss out on the most important piece of life, which is giving and sharing our gifts with one another. So if 1 billion people were to tap into the gift that they are, share that with the world, and be who they're born to be, the world would be a tremendously joyful place.

Claudia von Boeselager 45:50  
Yes, here's to that mission, right? My if you could live to 150 years old, we are interested in longevity in this space, right? So if you could live to 150, I'm planning on it, I'm planning on it. So when we're 150, I should say, with excellent health, how would you spend it,

Maya Comerota 46:08  
I would spend it adventuring with the people that I love, I would spend it in the mountains and in the ocean. And what I love is it's probably very similar to the life that I love and create now. And I don't think that I think I'll just be able to experience more of it and in less time because, you know, our airplanes will take shorter will be, you know, I'll be able to transmit myself there overnight, just by my thought, you know, but I would be, and I think this is true for probably so many people, I would spend it with the people that bring me most alive. And I would do the things that make me the most joyful, I would have a tonne of fun. I would take lots of adventures, and I would be out there in nature with the people I care the most about

Claudia von Boeselager 46:51  
beautiful. My work. Can people follow what you're up to on social media handles and websites? Where's the best place for people to find you?

Maya Comerota 47:01  
Yeah, so my website is mayacomerota.com. My Instagram is at Mayacomerota. And you can also find me on Facebook.

Claudia von Boeselager 47:10  
Perfect. And we'll link all of that for the audience as well. Mike, do you have any final ask or recommendations or any parting thoughts or messages for my audience?

Maya Comerota 47:20  
Go and live a life you absolutely love. There's another quote that I love, and it's that you can only live a life that you've imagined. And so go and imagine the life that you would love and go start taking action and be her now, be him now.

Claudia von Boeselager 47:34  
Beautiful. As Einstein says, imagination is the preview of life's coming attractions. So, we have to start with imagination. Maya, it has been such a pleasure to have you on today. Thank you so much for your time, your wisdom, and your gifts for sharing them with our audience today. So yeah, thank you.

Maya Comerota 47:50  
Thank you so much, Claudia, and thank you all for listening.

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